he romance scammer will keep trying to get as much money as possible from a victim until the victim can no longer afford to send money or until the victim realizes that their “loved one” has been running a con and is never going to come.More often lately, the way a victim realizes that the “love of his or her life” is a dream turned nightmare is to have law enforcement arrive at their home or place of business to question and possibly arrest them for any number of crimes, including felony fraud and money laundering.Members join and lurk for awhile sometimes trying to assimilate what has happened in some way to make it have sense to them. Once the proof and realization hits and denial must be put away, the victim is left destitute – totally crushed from the inside out emotionally, psychologically and sometimes physically and then for many, financially.
he scammer will tell the victim that he or she will be away from a few weeks to a few months and so the face to face meeting must wait.
At this point, the scammer has, at the very least, ensured the victim’s interest in waiting for his or her return.
In addition, photos are exchanged, each party sharing the images of themselves and the people most important in his/her life.
All of this is created with the unknowing help of the victim and designed according to the answers we give to the questions the scammer asks.
Once the scammer arrives in Nigeria (for example), he or she will send a phone number so that the parties can stay in touch, continue chatting through IM, declaring committed love to the point of proposing marriage, obtain the victim’s phone number and make calls frequently to the victim to further solidify the emotional connection and attachment, ask for an address and send gifts with romantic notes (all purchased with stolen or fraudulent credit or debit cards).