I am not sure really on details of his life and really can't get a straight answer cause he wants to put it in the past. I'd love to meet his kids but I know that will not happen except for the newest adult child he just found.Heck, his mom doesn't even know where he really Is.. so many lies and I feel like a secret, of course, he says I am not and his mom would just give us hell.. I am a smart woman, however, I really like the way he makes me feel and don't want to lose that feeling..
I have tried: I haven't said a word to him, I thought it would pass. He has kept someone else in his life for more than a year that lives in another state. You could contact the other woman and I personally would if I was in your situation.
I have watched them, became friends with her on another profile.. Not to be confrontational but more to let her know that you both wasted a year or more of your life on someone who can't commit to one person.
If you can settle for that then wait for him to start contacting you.
My boyfriend has another girlfriend, she lives in another state.
He does not want to introduce you to his family, yet made the move to another state to be with you. Perhaps he is with you shortly after his wife passed away and wants to give his children and mother time to grieve before he introduces you, but he could have just told you that.