It seems that the more time passes, the more complicated people assume the answer to this type of question will get ("It was a simpler time back in my day..."), especially because gender roles, with each passing decade, become more relaxed and fluid.
Surely, though, while the answers may be different in some ways depending on the era, I believe there will always be timeless themes that emerge when this type of question is posed.
You assume that because you value certain traits in men; men value the same thing in women. It’s not that intelligence, money, and leadership are unimportant to men; it’s that they place a distant second compared to the most important trait: How you make him FEEL. It’s not your list of credentials that impress men – it’s how they feel about themselves when they’re with you. The woman whose default setting is happy, not stressed/angry/anxious. However, you might notice that men who are consumed with their careers are not always available, and men who are charismatic often like to hear themselves talk.
So if your greatest strengths are your intellectual curiosity, your tenacity at work, and your ability to analyze and debate your stance on every issue under the sun, you’d definitely be the person he wants to HIRE. Simply put: if he feels GOOD about hanging around with you, he’s going to want to hang around with you forever. I can’t make a guy into a better listener; but I can share subtle ways in which you can make men feel better when they’re around you.
You can imagine my surprise when many of the respondents had taken the time to write a few paragraphs.
Perhaps they were elated by the idea that, what it was THEY WANTED.
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